Caught in the Web of the Internet

沉湎因特網(wǎng)

IN THIS ARTICLE: Getting hooked on the Internet isn't confined to a few computer nerds. It's on the rise everywhere--and women are the most likely addicts. Ingrid Parker, once a slave to Internet chatrooms, found her experiences so devastating that she wrote a book to help other addicts break the habit. --Editor

本文簡介：沉醉于因特網(wǎng)而難以自拔的人已不再局限于少數(shù)計(jì)算機(jī)迷了。對(duì)因特網(wǎng)癡迷的人越來越多，到處都是--婦女最可能成為對(duì)因特網(wǎng)著迷的人。英格麗德·帕克一度沉溺于網(wǎng)上聊天，后來發(fā)現(xiàn)那段經(jīng)歷使她損失不小，因而寫了一本書以幫助其他網(wǎng)上君子們改掉上網(wǎng)成癮的毛病。。

[1]It's the equivalent of inviting sex addicts to a brothel or holding an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting at the pub. Internet addicts tired of their square-eyed, keyboard tapping ways need look no further than the Web for counselling. There is now an online counselling service at www.relate.org.nz for Internet obsessives. Just e-mail the details of your Internet-induced crisis and help comes direct to your inbox. The new breed of cybertherapists see nothing strange about offering help through the very medium that is swallowing their clients' free time and splitting their marriages.

[2] Sue Hine, of Relationship Services, says: "Internet obsession has become a more noticeable problem over the last 18 months. At least this is an area addicts are familiar with and they'll be able to use it as a tool to overcome their obsession." Nor do experts worry that the Relate Website might become a favourite--a place to spend hours online in the name of Internet therapy. Dependency is always a risk with any form of counselling. There are various strategies we can adopt to keep that in perspective, says Hine.

[3] Though some may regard Internet addiction as another dubious ailment dreamed up to keep therapists in work, Relationship Services says the problem is real.

[4] Internet usage is up to four-and-a-half hours on the Web each week, compared to three-and-a-half hours a year ago. Therapist Robin Paul says there tend to be two scenarios. Some people meet through chatrooms and fall in love. It's like having an affair, then they meet and it's like a whirlwind honeymoon. It's devastating for the person left behind and quite often it has no real foundation.

[5] I saw one couple who were still together but it was very rocky. He met someone on the Net and went overseas to meet the woman. Then he left his wife and children to be with her. In another case I saw recently, a man left his three children to be with a woman (who was) leaving her four children. It's terribly hard on the kids when this happens.

[1]上網(wǎng)成癮如同邀約好色的人逛妓院，或者在小酒館里舉行"嗜酒者互誡協(xié)會(huì)"(AA)會(huì)員集會(huì)。網(wǎng)迷們疲勞地盯著顯示屏，敲擊著鍵盤，只想通過萬維網(wǎng)尋求咨詢。現(xiàn)在有一種為網(wǎng)迷開設(shè)的網(wǎng)上咨詢服務(wù)，其網(wǎng)址是： www.relate.org.nz。你只需把上網(wǎng)引發(fā)的“危機(jī)”詳情用電子郵件發(fā)出去，就會(huì)從你的郵箱中直接收到幫助信息。新式的計(jì)算機(jī)治療專家認(rèn)為，通過網(wǎng)絡(luò)尋求幫助并不奇怪，正是它吞噬著網(wǎng)迷們的自由時(shí)間，而且危及到他們的婚姻。

[2]“關(guān)系服務(wù)網(wǎng)站”的蘇·海英說：“在最近的18個(gè)月中，上網(wǎng)成癮已經(jīng)成為一個(gè)非常突出的問題。服務(wù)網(wǎng)站至少是網(wǎng)迷熟悉的地方，他們將能夠把它作為戒掉網(wǎng)癮的工具來使用。”專家們也并不擔(dān)心服務(wù)網(wǎng)站會(huì)成為上網(wǎng)者最愛光顧的地方--一個(gè)網(wǎng)迷們花費(fèi)在線時(shí)間進(jìn)行網(wǎng)上診療的地方。依賴于任何形式的咨詢服務(wù)總是靠不住的。海英說，我們可以采取各種措施使服務(wù)網(wǎng)站發(fā)揮有效作用。

[3]有些人認(rèn)為，沉醉于因特網(wǎng)的人是患有某種假想的精神失調(diào)癥，這只是使得精神治療專家有事可做。然而，關(guān)系服務(wù)網(wǎng)站卻認(rèn)為這個(gè)問題確實(shí)存在。

[4]一年前，萬維網(wǎng)的使用率為每周3.5小時(shí)，而現(xiàn)在達(dá)到了4.5小時(shí)。診療專家羅賓·保羅說，癡迷于因特網(wǎng)往往表現(xiàn)為兩種情形。有的人在聊天室相識(shí)并墜人愛河。這就像有了不正當(dāng)關(guān)系，然后約會(huì)，像蜜月一般慌慌張張的。被拋棄的一方在感情上會(huì)受到極大的打擊，而這種網(wǎng)上戀愛通常全然沒有現(xiàn)實(shí)的基礎(chǔ)。

[5]“我曾目睹一對(duì)夫婦，他們?nèi)栽谝黄穑舜酥g的感情已經(jīng)搖搖欲墜。男方在網(wǎng)上有了外遇，就飄洋過海去與網(wǎng)上戀人見面，之后，他為了和她在一起而拋妻棄子。在我最近看到的另一個(gè)例子中，男方為了跟某個(gè)女人在一起，拋下了自己的三個(gè)孩子，而那個(gè)女人也準(zhǔn)備離開她的四個(gè)孩子。這種事情可害苦了那些孩子們。”

Caught in the Web of the Internet

沉湎因特網(wǎng)

IN THIS ARTICLE: Getting hooked on the Internet isn't confined to a few computer nerds. It's on the rise everywhere--and women are the most likely addicts. Ingrid Parker, once a slave to Internet chatrooms, found her experiences so devastating that she wrote a book to help other addicts break the habit. --Editor

本文簡介：沉醉于因特網(wǎng)而難以自拔的人已不再局限于少數(shù)計(jì)算機(jī)迷了。對(duì)因特網(wǎng)癡迷的人越來越多，到處都是--婦女最可能成為對(duì)因特網(wǎng)著迷的人。英格麗德·帕克一度沉溺于網(wǎng)上聊天，后來發(fā)現(xiàn)那段經(jīng)歷使她損失不小，因而寫了一本書以幫助其他網(wǎng)上君子們改掉上網(wǎng)成癮的毛病。。

[1]It's the equivalent of inviting sex addicts to a brothel or holding an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting at the pub. Internet addicts tired of their square-eyed, keyboard tapping ways need look no further than the Web for counselling. There is now an online counselling service at www.relate.org.nz for Internet obsessives. Just e-mail the details of your Internet-induced crisis and help comes direct to your inbox. The new breed of cybertherapists see nothing strange about offering help through the very medium that is swallowing their clients' free time and splitting their marriages.

[2] Sue Hine, of Relationship Services, says: "Internet obsession has become a more noticeable problem over the last 18 months. At least this is an area addicts are familiar with and they'll be able to use it as a tool to overcome their obsession." Nor do experts worry that the Relate Website might become a favourite--a place to spend hours online in the name of Internet therapy. Dependency is always a risk with any form of counselling. There are various strategies we can adopt to keep that in perspective, says Hine.

[3] Though some may regard Internet addiction as another dubious ailment dreamed up to keep therapists in work, Relationship Services says the problem is real.

[4] Internet usage is up to four-and-a-half hours on the Web each week, compared to three-and-a-half hours a year ago. Therapist Robin Paul says there tend to be two scenarios. Some people meet through chatrooms and fall in love. It's like having an affair, then they meet and it's like a whirlwind honeymoon. It's devastating for the person left behind and quite often it has no real foundation.

[5] I saw one couple who were still together but it was very rocky. He met someone on the Net and went overseas to meet the woman. Then he left his wife and children to be with her. In another case I saw recently, a man left his three children to be with a woman (who was) leaving her four children. It's terribly hard on the kids when this happens.

[1]上網(wǎng)成癮如同邀約好色的人逛妓院，或者在小酒館里舉行"嗜酒者互誡協(xié)會(huì)"(AA)會(huì)員集會(huì)。網(wǎng)迷們疲勞地盯著顯示屏，敲擊著鍵盤，只想通過萬維網(wǎng)尋求咨詢。現(xiàn)在有一種為網(wǎng)迷開設(shè)的網(wǎng)上咨詢服務(wù)，其網(wǎng)址是： www.relate.org.nz。你只需把上網(wǎng)引發(fā)的“危機(jī)”詳情用電子郵件發(fā)出去，就會(huì)從你的郵箱中直接收到幫助信息。新式的計(jì)算機(jī)治療專家認(rèn)為，通過網(wǎng)絡(luò)尋求幫助并不奇怪，正是它吞噬著網(wǎng)迷們的自由時(shí)間，而且危及到他們的婚姻。

[2]“關(guān)系服務(wù)網(wǎng)站”的蘇·海英說：“在最近的18個(gè)月中，上網(wǎng)成癮已經(jīng)成為一個(gè)非常突出的問題。服務(wù)網(wǎng)站至少是網(wǎng)迷熟悉的地方，他們將能夠把它作為戒掉網(wǎng)癮的工具來使用。”專家們也并不擔(dān)心服務(wù)網(wǎng)站會(huì)成為上網(wǎng)者最愛光顧的地方--一個(gè)網(wǎng)迷們花費(fèi)在線時(shí)間進(jìn)行網(wǎng)上診療的地方。依賴于任何形式的咨詢服務(wù)總是靠不住的。海英說，我們可以采取各種措施使服務(wù)網(wǎng)站發(fā)揮有效作用。

[3]有些人認(rèn)為，沉醉于因特網(wǎng)的人是患有某種假想的精神失調(diào)癥，這只是使得精神治療專家有事可做。然而，關(guān)系服務(wù)網(wǎng)站卻認(rèn)為這個(gè)問題確實(shí)存在。

[4]一年前，萬維網(wǎng)的使用率為每周3.5小時(shí)，而現(xiàn)在達(dá)到了4.5小時(shí)。診療專家羅賓·保羅說，癡迷于因特網(wǎng)往往表現(xiàn)為兩種情形。有的人在聊天室相識(shí)并墜人愛河。這就像有了不正當(dāng)關(guān)系，然后約會(huì)，像蜜月一般慌慌張張的。被拋棄的一方在感情上會(huì)受到極大的打擊，而這種網(wǎng)上戀愛通常全然沒有現(xiàn)實(shí)的基礎(chǔ)。

[5]“我曾目睹一對(duì)夫婦，他們?nèi)栽谝黄穑舜酥g的感情已經(jīng)搖搖欲墜。男方在網(wǎng)上有了外遇，就飄洋過海去與網(wǎng)上戀人見面，之后，他為了和她在一起而拋妻棄子。在我最近看到的另一個(gè)例子中，男方為了跟某個(gè)女人在一起，拋下了自己的三個(gè)孩子，而那個(gè)女人也準(zhǔn)備離開她的四個(gè)孩子。這種事情可害苦了那些孩子們。”